To me the question of planets-for-nap is really a matter of how the defending party responds to it.
I know I'm a month late on this, and as a disclaimer I haven't played for about 5 years I think so I may be out of touch with the current game. But bear with me here:
Lone Tiger said: "As for new player, it's a part of any game. You get beaten up a few times, that's how you learn. It's that way in any war game. It's a war game."
I couldn't agree more. Of course, this doesn't mean that it should be ok to just completely ruin somebody else's round, but at the same time being put in extremely difficult situations is part of what makes this game what it is. Anybody who's been involved in a difficult, long-term wars knows that things don't always come easy.
Honestly, and I mean no offense by this, but if anybody is to blame for planets-for-nap being as common as it is, it's the leaders/victims who have been accepting it. There are two parts to that kind of agreement, the "bully" who tries to pull it, and the "victim" who lies down and lets it happen. Don't let it happen.
This used to drive me nuts when I played, not just the first time somebody tried to pull that crap on me, but moreso because some people in my fam (including vice leaders) would occasionally want to give in to the demand. It was sometimes more difficult to deal with the internal problems this could cause than to actually deal with fighting the enemy. Still though, I NEVER gave into this.
Bear with me while I go "old man" for a second:
In MW Round 6 my foohon family was hit HARD by a family called Schizophrenic MILFs. These guys were way bigger than us, fairly skilled, and their allies were bigger than our allies too. It sucked. We fought the best we could but at some point it became clear that we just lost. Eventually it was offered that our family would be left alone if we provided planets for peace.
I said absolutely not, and was laughed at.
Some of my family members got pretty mad at me, and people would trash me in uni-news for being "stupid" or "stubborn", and for not agreeing to "just give us the planets and we'll leave you alone" and "it's not even that many planets" and "if we fight we're gonna take more anyway". I didn't care. For me, it was and still is a matter of principle. If somebody tries to rape you, you don't lie down and take it if they promise to be gentle. You fight back. This is a war game.
This caused some serious heat for me from within the fam. At one point I recall having to tell my family that "Hey you know what. You guys elected me leader, and I've brought you this far. If you don't like this decision you're more than welcome to elect somebody else." My family members then buckled down and continued to fight with me. It eventually became a tri-war, one that I remember fondly as one of my shining moments in IC.
Our family was in this war for 19 real life days.
You know what happened as a result? We caused problems for our enemies. Certainly more than they expected. They dropped in the ranks. They ruined our chance and progressing in the ranks so we did the same to them. We got a well-earned reputation as being a family who will not go easy. If you war us, be prepared for a hard fight and don't even dare try to offer a nap for planets because you're just going to anger us and the hard ops will fly. I, and by extension the early incarnations of foohon families, got a reputation of being serious scrappers.
You don't earn a reputation of being a fighter by lying down to get raped. You get a reputation of being easy. So don't do it. Sure you probably will lose nw and planets and probably not finish the round as high as you'd like, but you will probably get a better experience out of the game and (gasp) more experience fighting larger families. Besides, there is a certain thrill to fighting a larger family with a nothing-to-lose attitude, causing them to drop ranks. Sometimes being the underdog is way more fun.
You know what's even more important, is what is taught to your new family members. Had I said "um, ok here are some planets stop hitting us please" it would have only taught newbies in my fam to do the same. I'm not going to teach new players to be wimps.
In the end, the responsibility doesn't lie on the attacking family to play fair, it lies on the defending family to respond appropriately when they don't.
But then, this was years ago and I don't know what the current game is like. Maybe it's bad practice nowadays to stand up to bullies. *shrugs*
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