@smokee2k02: Didnt anyone ever teach you about proper sentances, paragraphs and the use of a period? You had one sentance that was literally over 150 words! Nobody wants to take the time to read your wall of text. Its insane. Anyhoo....about your 'complaints'....
You are using what i like to call the 'Artic Method' of ending wars. Thats when you spam their inbox with whiny messages asking them to stop. The Artic Method often includes personal insults and accusations of dishonor. You know, typical nerd rage stuff. Its not very effective at ending wars or saving familys from destruction. In fact it makes it worse. Just ask Artic how effective it is 
Arby3 is right. Wars are won by actually playing the game. How long did it take you to type up that insanely long post? Imagine if you had spent the time doing retakes and organizing your family instead! Only 1 family/alliance can win each round. Everyone else loses.
I have noticed that the '5 Stages of Grief' also apply to your IC family losing....
1. Denial - "Oh noes! i cant believe a family bigger than me is attacking me! This cant be happening. This game is supposed to be honorable and fair!!"
2. Anger - "Im so pissed off im getting attacked! Grr! im gonna write some angry messages and hope it deters them from attacking. If that doesnt work im gonna post in the forums and nerd rage there!"
3. Bargaining - "Maybe they will give me a NAP if i beg them? Ill do whatever it takes to get them to stop. Maybe post more in a forum, appeal to a mod for help. Perhaps spamming the leader's inbox will get me that NAP i so desperately need."
4. Depression - "Im so sad. No point in playing anymore. I should just go inactive and give up. Maybe if i whine some more they will stop? Oh well, i give up."
5. Acceptance - "its ok. The round is almost over and we lost. I guess ill prepare for next round and take my chances with a different group of players. Its just a game."
Now go back and read all of smokee2k02's posts in this thread (if your eyes can handle it again) You can see him working through all 5 of these stages. LULZ 
The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he, who in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who would attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee!!