1 (edited by avogadro 20-Sep-2010 21:27:36)

Topic: Gay marriage

Right now i have a hard time supporting or opposing gay marriages because the arguments i hear from both sides are complete crap.

1st. People argue religiously its not allowed and by allowing it the state is somehow going against their religion. but if you think its so religious, then you should be against the government involvement with it all together.

2nd.  Gays just want to be able to visit their partner in the hospital. Well, then you shouldn't be opposing "civil unions". your argument against civil unions being discriminatory because its different is BS. We have different names for different things, a same sex marriage is different from a normal marriage, and calling it different does not discriminate; and finally, if you really cared about visiting your partner in the hospital, then you wouldn't be opposing civil unions, you are keeping yourself from visiting your partner in the hospital by opposing civil unions.



so someone please try to sway me over to one side or the other.

Re: Gay marriage

uh, the Catholic Church DID oppose civil marriage for many years. 

Now we have a federal court declaring as FACT that "Religious views describing homosexual relationships as inferior or sinful do harm to gays and lesbians".

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Re: Gay marriage

Think of it from a selfish and prideful perspective.

I get married. It comes up in conversation with others that I'm married. They ask me if my spouse is a man or a woman. I'm insulted and so is she.

Or

No gay marriage. Pick another name to avoid confusion. Lets all say marriage is reserved between a man and a woman because they're relationship is capable of a form of intercourse that can lead to babies. More frankly: their parts fit together. I'm no longer being insulted by valid questions.

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> Petrolstone wrote:

> Think of it from a selfish and prideful perspective.

I get married. It comes up in conversation with others that I'm married. They ask me if my spouse is a man or a woman. I'm insulted and so is she. <


And there we have the crux of the matter: people still think being gay is "wrong".

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there have been people who thought they were God and people who thought they could fly and people who thought they could bend steel bars with their mind and people who thought they were babies and peopel who thought they were in two places at once

but there has never been a mentally ill person who was deluded about being gay

if you think you're gay, you're right 100% of the time.

Apparently when they find that gay gene, they'll cure insanity

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6 (edited by avogadro 21-Sep-2010 00:56:40)

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> [TI] ARFeh zee Frenchie wrote:

> > Petrolstone wrote:

> Think of it from a selfish and prideful perspective.

I get married. It comes up in conversation with others that I'm married. They ask me if my spouse is a man or a woman. I'm insulted and so is she. <


And there we have the crux of the matter: people still think being gay is "wrong".



i don't think you have to think being gay is wrong to be insulted by that. If you ask a woman if she is pregnant, does the woman have to think pregnancy is wrong to be insulted?

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> Chris_Balsz wrote:

> there have been people who thought they were God and people who thought they could fly and people who thought they could bend steel bars with their mind and people who thought they were babies and peopel who thought they were in two places at once

but there has never been a mentally ill person who was deluded about being gay

if you think you're gay, you're right 100% of the time.

Apparently when they find that gay gene, they'll cure insanity




Um... the people who think they could fly, were in two places at once, etc., are questioning realities that can be disproven by simple observation (go ahead and fly).

However, sexual orientation is simply an issue of personal preference.  Saying that someone is mentally ill for having a different sexual preference is like saying someone is mentally ill for not liking the same flavor of ice cream as you (but to be fair, chocolate, vanilla, and their derivatives are the only flavors any sane person should ever need).  smile

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i think both sides are very defensive. gays feel they are being considered sub human and anti gay marriage people are being considered intolerant and because both sides feel threatened neither side is willing to be reasonable and are looking for excuses not to like possible fixes.

Re: Gay marriage

right, I'm not interested in "fixing" my opinion because you have a desperate problem with my lack of respect.

If you didnt' give a damn the way I don't, you'd be cool.

"However, sexual orientation is simply an issue of personal preference.  Saying that someone is mentally ill for having a different sexual preference is like saying someone is mentally ill for not liking the same flavor of ice cream as you " 

No its more subtle.  It's as if no one could ever mistake a liking for butterscotch-- or even more subtly, if Authority insisted no one could ever mistake liking butterscotch.   The only people who claim to like butterscotch are sincere and sane and healthy.  Somebody might imagine or pretend to like vanilla, or pistachio, but not butterscotch.  Only a bigot would ask why.

You might be criminally insane because of your sexuality, or be confused about not  being gay, but nobody is ever confused about being gay.  Nobody ever thought they were gay, but got fed up with it and found true happiness being straight.   No, you can't explore why.  That suggests being gay is not perfectly normal and healthy.

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i have many gay friends and ive been to a few gay bars during lawschool (since they went to our bars so us straight guys and our gfs would go over there etc) and they were never the token stereotype etc.  creating a subclass for them is as demeaning as creating a subclass for any other minority class. 

with that being said, i really dont personally care if they marry or not.

(i'm a bad republican catholic, i know) From a legal standpoint, I foresee US eventually legalizing gay marriage.  It seems to have a similar ringtone as abortion and it will eventually be legal.  (im not comparing gay marriage to abortion but only the legal enactment process and uproar of it before anyone goes crazy)

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11 (edited by avogadro 21-Sep-2010 07:33:25)

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really? you've made contact with gays and have even befriended some? and they even allowed you into their habitat? dude, dpenguins, we aren't talking about an isolated tribe that time has passed by, fags are not some rare thing most of us never see. I have friends that are gay, i have co-workers that are gay, and theres a gay bar downtown that is famous for its food that i've been to many times. heck, in college, the Frat i was in had open showers and i've showered when there was an openly gay guy showering too.

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And I've known women who 'realized' that their two year relationship was really one long rape.

I've known women who only want guys from a certain ethnic group

I've known people who made UNUSUAL LIFESTYLE CHOICES

they didn't make it the basis of a civil rights movement

but maybe they should cash in like the gays

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> avogadro wrote:

> > [TI] ARFeh zee Frenchie wrote:

> > Petrolstone wrote:

> Think of it from a selfish and prideful perspective.

I get married. It comes up in conversation with others that I'm married. They ask me if my spouse is a man or a woman. I'm insulted and so is she. <


And there we have the crux of the matter: people still think being gay is "wrong".



i don't think you have to think being gay is wrong to be insulted by that. If you ask a woman if she is pregnant, does the woman have to think pregnancy is wrong to be insulted?

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@walking corpse.
no offense dude, but your example is proving his point. The women would be insulted because the only reason one could say she is pregnant if she isn't, is because she's fat. The only analogy you can make from that is: "if you say someone is guy but he isn't, then you imply his manners make him look guy". Having "guy manners" would be a negative thing then. And I'm not for guy marriage (in fact I couldn't care less).

I still cannot understand how you can be both guy and want to marry for church, unless you believe you are a sinner and can't help it. If it is only for the state then just make a contract that gives them the same legal advantages.

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Little Paul im not sure that talking about "analogy" in this thread is politcaly correct...

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oh teh noes, I'm a guy too sad

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Re: Gay marriage

Homosexuality is typically selected against by evolution. Men and women are attracted to one another because it was selected by evolution, and homosexuality seems to manifest as a result of the interaction of some advantageous genes. Basically, it is not normal and it is present in a small percentage of the population for a reason. But to be fair, a lot of crazy, abnormal things happen among individuals of a species that are not ordinarily practiced by the species as a whole, due to unique experiences and/or genes.

Although in the case of homosexuality, it is not always the case for every species. For some species, sexuality has evolved as a means to form social bonds and diffuse tension, as is the case with the bonobo. And in bonobos, a lot of sexual contact is homosexual. So effectively, most bonobos can be said to be bisexual. Of course, this is not how human sexuality evolved. We don't typically copulate with one another to form social bonds and diffuse tension as a tribal group, except maybe with our mate(s).

That said, there is no reason to deny homosexuals full participation in society. They can be just as productive as heterosexuals. However, I think it is silly to give them participation in the meaningless ritual of marriage. As a matter of fact, I think the state should not even recognize marriage.

18 (edited by Little Paul 26-Sep-2010 20:20:08)

Re: Gay marriage

lol@kollop
@justinian:
I agree with everything except the last sentence. I think marriage has its huge disadvantages but can offer a certain stability and security to a persons relationship. If the gains are higher then the cost depends from person to person. I have to admit tough its hard, maybe impossible to know what the effect will be on the average relationship.

Re: Gay marriage

Families have been the most fundamental building block of society for thousands of years. Given this, government supporting this institution makes sense and is good for society. Gay couples do not produce families. This chief reason for government encouragement and rewarding marriage does not apply to gay couples.

While children may be offered a better life if homosexuals may adopt (as opposed to institutionalized care), children are primarily socialized by their parents, and men and women are different physically, chemically, physiologically, and psychologically. Homosexual parents are just not as ideal as heterosexual parents. What a shocker. If this a reason for anything, it's a reason to fix our adoption system that has people going to overseas to adopt children in need.

Visitation rights and all that, I think homosexuals should [of course] have. To each his own, live your life, and all of that. I just don't support institutionalized support for gay couples as if they're the same as heterosexual couples. They're not.

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@Godwin's Law

"However, sexual orientation is simply an issue of personal preference."

Sorry, but that's an incorrect.  I am gay, but I didn't wake up one day and think "Gee, this gay thing sounds like a lot of fun.  I'll go find myself a man!"  I knew from a very young age (8 or so) that I wasn't "wired" the same way as the other kids/boys at school.  Over time it became apparent what this was.  But to say that it is a "preference", as if to say that I one day made this conscious decision is frankly wrong. 

I know a lot of people think that it is a choice that all of us gay people make, but that is just general ignorance. 

Also, I'm not alone - all of the gay men I have been with and all of the other gay people I've interacted with over the years, have felt the same way.  Whether you wish to interpret that as a sign of a gay gene or not is entirely up to you.  For what it is worth, I'm not sure there is a gay gene, but I wouldn't rule it out just yet.  At least, not until the actions of every gene in the human body have been fully mapped to physio- and pyscho- logical functions, and the interplay between these genes is understood and and the evidence points conclusively away from a gay gene.  But there is a large body of growing anecdotal evidence to suggest that gay people don't just decide to become gay.  It isn't like choosing between a pair of shoes to wear or whether you suddenly decide you don't (or do) like this ice cream or that.


As for whether gay people should be allowed to "marry" or not... I'm of the opinion that I don't care.  If religious people want their hollow victory then fine, have it.  So long as there is still some institution which carries all of the same rights and responsibilities of marriage then who really loses out?  Gay people fall in love too you know. 



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Re: Gay marriage

> [TI] Lateralis wrote:

> @Godwin's Law

"However, sexual orientation is simply an issue of personal preference."

Sorry, but that's an incorrect.  I am gay, but I didn't wake up one day and think "Gee, this gay thing sounds like a lot of fun.  I'll go find myself a man!"  I knew from a very young age (8 or so) that I wasn't "wired" the same way as the other kids/boys at school.  Over time it became apparent what this was.  But to say that it is a "preference", as if to say that I one day made this conscious decision is frankly wrong. 




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22 (edited by avogadro 28-Sep-2010 01:34:04)

Re: Gay marriage

i think its pretty obvious that social factors have a huge impact on the popularity of homosexuality. Spartan culture encouraged homosexuality, they thought it would encourage soldiers to fight harder to protect their fellow soldiers and as a result it was quite popular in their society. In modern societies we have traits we seek in a partner and if you go to another distant country, those traits are going to be different, because its a different society that encourages different traits that causes the individual to be attracted to different traits.  There is no gene that 100% of the time is going to make you gay or 100% make you straight just like there isn't a specific gene that makes you like blonds or red heads. People are wired relatively the same. It is a combination of environment and genetics that results in sexuality. A negative stigma on homosexuality is no more prejudiced then a negative stigma on women with small breasts, obese individuals, people with acne, short people, or tall people and our society is no more wrong for looking down on homosexuals as it is for looking down on obesity.

Re: Gay marriage

they weren't gay, they were bisexual by todays standards

in fact what we do is uniquely preverted.

sex is culture

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24 (edited by Godwin's Law 28-Sep-2010 03:38:43)

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Okay, nevermind, I was wrong.


See, now I was guessing that Chris and/or Avo would mention that if you say that homosexuality is a biological trait and not a learned stimuli, then that means it is, in effect, a dysfunction, just like any genetic disease, in that it changes a person's behavior in a way that is contrary to their ends of self-preservation and proliferation of their genetic material.  In effect, a trait can't be biological, and at the same time not be considered a mutation/deviation from the genetic superior (only in the sense that heterosexuals are biologically more likely produce offspring than homosexuals), thus justifying Chris' argument in the second post.

Not saying I necessarily agree with this.  Just a devil's advocate.  wink

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my considered thought is that men are hardwired to bang a knothole in a plank

anything above that is learned, conditioned behavior

and our psychological and psychiatric sciences are not ethically allowed to deprogram too deeply, whatever the behavior

besides waht's to "cure"? there's no "disorder"

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