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well ive been hit my the arrow sad


i met this beautiful person over spring break and we really fell for each other... the thing is she lives almost 1000 miles from me sad.
we keep in touch and send each other emails and love letters and chat on msn but im worried that this relationship wont have a very good ending sad. im really falling for this girl and all i can think of is her im just worried that the distance between us will prove to be more than love can handle sad.

anyone else ever had a long distance relationship? any tips on keeping the love going? what can i do to make the mile that we are apart not matter? ive already made plans to visit her in june but thay will be the longest 2 months of my life sad.

i really like this girl and i feel she may be that one XD but sometimes its hard to find the words to explain to her how i feel. every time i was with here it felt like mere moments and when im away from here it feels like an eternity sad. i think im falling hard as hard as ive ever fell for anyone in my life. my mom says im young and this stuff happens but it feels diffrent with her i really truly believe shes my soul mate sad. the distance is far and i feel its harder to maintain the passion we had when we were together for those short 2 weeks sad. ive even decided to take a year off from classes just to be able to get to know her better....

i just got a job with a friend and will be working my arse off for the next 2 months to save the cash to visit here and stay for a few months fif possible. man has cupids arrow really hit me like a ton of briks sad i got a bad disease with no cure sad. god i hope shes the one XD i feel she may be. i can be myself qwith this girl i dont have to pretend or hide who i am... i can share my feelings and she really listends to what i have to say she doesent judge me or want me to be a diffrent person she has true iner and outer beauty. loking into her eyes gets me weak in the knees sad.

i hope this works out but have any of you ever been in my predicament? who did you pull it off and did it all work out in the end?

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a email im about to send to her XD

DUENA DE MI ALMA DUENA DE MI CORAZON



duena de mi alma, duena de mi corazon
nuestro tiempo juntos se siente como segundos
pero cunado no te tengo se siente como decadas
que aria para besar tus labios, para oler tu perfume
que aria para perderme en tus ojos, sentir tu mano en la mia.
la distancia es grande pero el amor rompe barreras.
los meses se sienten como siglos, cada rato que no estoy distraido
solo pienso en ti. eres mi tesoro mi droga.
las horas son como dias, los dias como anos, las semanos como decadas,
y los meses se sienten como siglos
pero cuando estas con migo los dias son muy cortos, las semanas se van muy pronto
la duena de mi alma, duena de mi corazon
pronto te vere protno estaremos juntos
los kilometros son peqenas lomas que hay que cruzar pero yo caminaria mill kilimetros
para besar tus labios, para oler tu perfume, para tener tu mano en la mia
pronto te vere, pronto estaremos juntos otra ves
pero el tiempo hasta ese sera una miseria
eres la duena de mi alma, la duena de mi corazon.


con mucho amor,

Rafael Loubet.

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3 Reply by The Yell (edited by TheYell 06-Apr-2008 09:22:55)

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http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work

http://www.askmen.com/dating/datingadvice/26_dating_tips.html

http://www.lovingyou.com/content/advice/ldr/

http://www.aish.com/dating/wisdom/Surviving_a_Long-Distance_Relationship.asp

good news is, the consensus doesn't seem to be "To Hell With It"

nice poem.  Now, there's a gal I like who I plan on giving "Blazing Saddles" for her birthday.

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stop sending emails to her and get over it. you'll find someone at a more convenient location.

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llama let me tell you something, back in 04 I got out of a relationship with someone that I desperately needed to get away from. She wasn't healthy for me. I found the strength to say its over and finally be done with her. I met someone a month later. THE someone. She and I clicked instantly and I had a love at first sight kind of feeling. We were close friends for like 9 months and then we became a couple. Last year may we got married. She lives 350 miles away from me. We go to separate schools atm but we find time to spend with each other when we can.

Basically, it's not impossible to be in a long distance relationship but the strain is so hard. Visiting each other helps especially if you can do so somewhat regularly. Maybe every few weeks or every other month. Holidays especially. Try to find phone time, emails are great, letters, cards. The great thing about them is that it gives you time to miss each other and you also get to have your space. The bad thing is that you'll feel lonely and find yourself being mad at each other for no real reason. My take is, if you feel she's the one, then she's worth dealing with it. Let her know how you feel, where you want you and her to be and what you're willing to do to see it happen. Try to find a way to be with her as much as possible and communicate your feelings with her if you and her want to take the chance and be in a relationship.

You know where to find me if you want to talk big_smile (everybody else does:p)

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oh yeah, can you post a pic of her?

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K i hope some this helps.

I marriage started in a long distance way. I know its strange ,but we actually used the internet phone calls,snail mail to stay in touch with each other.Neither my wife or I were looking for love at the time. Some mutual online friend sorta introduced us. I was in california she was in kentucky. She seen pictures of me and I never seen a pic of her.A few months go by and its around thanksgiving. I decide to take the trip. This is after sept 11 in the usa so air travel was crazy. flieght got cancelled then i got bumped. then i had to stay overnight in alanta.

anyways i went back to connecticut after the visit and a few months later she came my way.later that year we got married.

Didn't have everything ,but we had each other.love will overcome all.

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im actually in a long distance relationship right now, and have been for the past year. my girlfriend used to live about two miles away from me and we were only together about three weeks before she moved to illinois for her job, while i had to stay here. we visit each other as much as possible, but i know how it feels to miss the person so much it might hurt sometimes. communication, honesty, and trust are the only things on top of love that can keep the relationship going, mostly just like any other relationship. I know how it feels to want to hold that person in your arms, and i know it gets really depressing after awhile. This might sound stupid, but soemthing me and my girlfriend have done is just mail a stuffed animal smelling like our cologne or perfume to each other, or a hoodie or w/e. Im not ashamed to say i sleep with a stuffed bear that smells like my girlfriend and cotton cany almost any night i miss her. Just communicate and be creative with way to talk and to show you love her.

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I am flattered, but i'm really not interested X(

NEE NAW NEE NAW

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10 Reply by Simka (edited by Simka 06-Apr-2008 16:02:12)

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yeah, love is mostly temporary thing...

its just another feeling from all the feelings...

youll find another one

in 6 months(about) this crazy love thing is over, then comes the not so crazy love ting then comes just addiction to that person...

there is no "the one" "the right" or whatever

its illogical there are 6 billion people in the world, and you only meet a fraction of them and too many people find "the one" meeting so few people form the 6 billion, there is more likely that your "the one" is some human who cant speak english

the one thing is crap there are just 2 people whos feromons match

do you know that the most important thing at first date is smell? not looks or other shit like that, but smell smile

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Listen to Deci (Decimus giving relationship advice? wtf? Anyways!) and Simka if you want and be depressed and pessamistic. Being in love is a good thing, ditch her now and Sod's Law, you'll never meet a girl like her again, and spend your lonely pensioner years thinking "Why oh why didn't we make the effort?".

Babelled:

DUENA OF MY SOUL DUENA OF MY HEART duena of my soul, duena of my together heart our time feels as seconds but cradled I do not have to you feels like decadas that Aryan to kiss your lips, to smell your Aryan perfume that to lose to me in your eyes, to feel your hand in mia. the distance is great but the love breaks barriers the months feel like centuries, each short while that I am not distraido single I think about you you are my treasure my drug the hours are like day, the days like anuses, the decadas semanos like, and the months feel like centuries but when these with migo the days are very short, the weeks in a moment go away the duena of my soul, duena of my heart soon you vere protno we are together the kilometros are peqenas kilimetros hills that there are to cross but caminaria I mill to kiss your lips, to smell your perfume, to have your hand in mia soon you vere, soon we will be together another one you see but the time until that sera a misery you are the duena of my soul, the duena of my heart.

My favourite part is "the days like anuses" big_smile

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12 Reply by [RPA]Sir SupAll (edited by Gwynedd 19-Jun-2008 01:20:05)

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Hey, Foohon, I was actually in a long distance relationship for quite sometime (technically, I guess you can say I'm in that same relationship but on different terms).  Here are some tips:

1) Don't call everyday.  After awhile, you'll have nothing to talk about and the conversations would be dull and boring and you'll wonder where it all went.

2) Trust and faith.  A long distance relationship is all about trust and faith.  If you can't trust each other, have faith in each other, then there is no point.  The relationship will break.

3) Don't see it as the ultimate test in a relationship.  There are far worse things than distance.

4) Show that you care, but don't overdo it.  Plan trips ahead of time, but don't turn them into promises (I waited 5 months before I went back to see my gf and now I don't know when I'll see her again).

5) It's not the end of the world if you can't hold the relationship.  Most people won't even try because it's "inconvenient".  Most do not realize that since communication is a key component in a long distance relationship, you tend to know your partner better.

Also, some of these previous retards can't understand the concept of why THAT girl.  So, here's a quote that would put it into perspective:

SergioThree: there's other fish in the sea, man, she's just a girl
Beatsfromkorea: no dude, that's bullshit.
Beatsfromkorea: Think of it this way. if your precious copy of street fighter third strike broke and i told you "it's ok man, there's other games in the sea. here, play mortal kombat instead" what would you say? you'd be like, "[w00f] that, gimme third strike."
SergioThree: ...
SergioThree: you just reached me on a level that i never thought possible

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13 Reply by Simka (edited by Simka 06-Apr-2008 16:39:03)

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----and Simka if you want and be depressed and pessamistic. Being in love is a good thing, ditch her now and Sod's Law, you'll never meet a girl like her again, and spend your lonely pensioner years thinking "Why oh why didn't we make the effort?".----

you got it all wrong, i might sound pessimistic, but i sounded rather optimistic

ofcurse love is great thing, i would never say no to it

but take love as greatest thing and to aim for love in life is a huge waste of life in my opinion, there are much deeper and better thing(s) then love


i have learned in my short life that there are no wemen and men, there are just people who are accomplishing same goals in different manner according to their sex

NB! i like wemen big_smile

but its better to be calm and peacfull or whatever you name it rather then go after a beatiful lady

Generally i don't like people.

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"con mucho amor"

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lol

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I never had them for as long as I can remember!"
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amor means love Arnor X(

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i hope it s mutual and that yr not ruining yr school carreer / future or smt smile

till the end of time..

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its mutual XD

i really dig this girl XD

and i wont post any pics of her unless she gives me the go on it tongue dont want to make her angry XD

thanks for the tips XD

specially nolio XD maybe ill stop in #mod soon and ask some direct questions tongue

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"you are my treasure, my drug, the hours are like day, the days like anuses!"

Ah, that made me chuckle. Babelfish ftw!

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20 Reply by avogadro (edited by avogadro 06-Apr-2008 21:00:59)

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either you love her enough to move to where she is in order to make the relationship work or you dont love each other enough to make the relationship work, and you should break up so that both of you can meet people close to you that can make both of you happy.

and i know of people that have left practically everything behind to move around 1k miles to be with someone they love; its not impossible.

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man try not to fall asleep on the phone when you talk to her.

the number of times she stopped talking to me because i feel asleep on the phone.

be a sweet talker ,but mean it.

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22 Reply by The Yell (edited by TheYell 06-Apr-2008 21:46:54)

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Now you can fall asleep across the table from her!

yknow llama if you browse the "Shaving" thread you'll find out what kind of dorks you asked to guide your life...so...maybe...you shouldn't look.

But good luck!

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Am I one of said dorks? X( I tort you wuved me!

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24 Reply by avogadro (edited by avogadro 06-Apr-2008 22:00:19)

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any girl that posts on the internet and is not taking her clothes off is a dork

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