Joor, the "small" fams arent waiting, they are now doing what your fam probably already did: they are planning their round and building their first buildings.
Your comment about Virgo is indeed correct, tho you do get aid in Virgo and some people actually play there. The problem with Virgo is that even the Tutors post in their fora that you just need to build 9 eships to and send them out at thesame time to play in the real gals. Virgo was a good idea for teaching, but it lost its effectivity.
Edit: @Glue, compared to other games, there is a very good percentage of donators in IC. I've played NukeZone as well, and they have more absolute donators, but they have a lower percentage of donators compared to the entire community.
2-3 days before BOR is far from enough. Fams wouldnt be filled and no strat would be worked out. The only fams that have enough with 2-3 days, are the fams that post in uni, the ones who are overactive and have their shit together in no-time cuz they know what they're doing. It takes a lot of time to form teams/strats/give instructions to players who are not used to this. Looks like you forgot that.