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My Dad has asked me to keep tabs on my 16 year old sister as he had to fix her laptop and found some chat convos she had saved in word about sex and drugs and other disturning things. Told him I would put a keylogger on there and have recorded a weeks worth of system info from websites visited to msn convos and all kinds of crap.

I'm 23 and she is 16 talking to guys my age and older about masturbation and sending pics back and for and giving out her telephone number to complete strangers as well as our home address.

the question is what to do???

I feel like getting all of these guys to meet her one at a time someplace using her msn account and then me turning up with a belt wrapped around my fist!!!

Thoughts??????

someone is going to get hurt and I wont let it be my kid sister

Anyone had similar issues or can offer some help, more than welcome!!!!

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You can give me her MSN for a start...:P.


But jokes aside, there isn't much you can do. Confront her, for a start, but i am sure at her age she will be 'right'. After she goes off her nut at you block the bloody site and anyone on her list you don't like. She will hate you for it. Other then that i don't know what you could do...

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have even considred blocking her mac address on the wifi router and telling her that her internal wifi card is screwed

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DW, as Skoe suggested your best bet is to talk to her.  Depending on the openness of the relationship with your sister you probably want to talk to her directly.  Blocking her access at home won't stop her.  There are computers at other places.  If you can, try finding one of those Chris Matthew's stories with those old guys hitting on the young girls.  Perhaps use that as a way to start the conversation.  And you probably don't want to meet these people.  Some are just perves, some more on the criminal side i.e. may show up armed.  Depending on what was said you could also approach your law enforcement agencies.  I'd skip telling her of the key logger.  I'd be upset if that was done to me and it leaves you with a way to check if she has changed later.  Perhaps you and/or your dad can approach her about the Word document as that could be labeled as just curiosity and then concern.  If/when this converastion occurs you MUST remain calm.  Try not to shout or scream or threaten.  Approach it as a loving brother and sibling concern.  Remind her that there are very very bad people out there.

Again blockking her access won't stop it you have to find a way to change her actions.

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5 Reply by flipmode (edited by Spidermanbearpig! 01-Jul-2008 03:00:08)

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maybe take the belt to your sister, would be alot easier and wouldn't have to worry about people missing dates.

Straight forward your sister sounds like a slut, does she not get attention at home? do you not tell her how girls should act, do you not have respectable girlfriends you bring home that your sister thinks are great. She needs girls older then her to teach what its like to be a girl. 16 is probably one of the toughest ages for a female sounds like she doesn't have to many female friends and needs attention from boys

also wheres your mom? also spying isn't smart either. Sounds like she'll get [], ridiculed and hopefully sort things out on her own.

harsh but what do you want people to say maybe she should go on jerry springer.

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Yeah, because no 16 year old has ever been sexually curious flip tongue.


She is not a slut, just not old enough to know better.

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im 16

gimme her msn i will do ur dirty work for you DW...

ill get close to her and see what she does ill get the pics etc from her just for erm 'evidence' yeh ok sounds good!

nah but for real that aint kool seeing those things of ur sis.. lemme start meeting her and ill change her big_smile

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no i know girls are curious, 1 person in our town got every girls naked webcam pics and sent them around. People stopped taking pictures he got charged.

I'm not trying to sound like an asshole, i have a 17 year old sister i just try to make sure she knows whats right and whats not. NEVER in my life would i search for dirty things or even want to find any dirt on her.

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blackmail ur sister. why even ask?

<parrot> there is also the odd  possibility that tryme is an idiot
<KT> possibility?
<genesis> tryme is a bit of an idiot
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just talk to her friend, theres no other way about it, don't tell her ur dad knows though... just say that he would get pissed if he ever found out, and imagine what it would do to him, guilt trip

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11 Reply by Gladiator (edited by Gladiator 01-Jul-2008 01:44:34)

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uggghhh that's rough, i'd hate to be in your position

here's my view on things, a lotta girls i know HATE over-protective brothers BUT this is where you have to be protective, cuz if she's talking to random strangers like that, it is REALLY going to turn ugly, I would basically talk to her, this would definetly at start make her hate you, and she'll prlly say something like you have no business looking through her stuff

but you I think gotta sit with her, and tell her that your dad wanted you to keep an eye on you, and say that you're doing this for her sake and she really needs to stop doing what she is doing(list all the things) this will make her feel a little guilty and also tell her how it could turn bad as some people online are not who they pretend to be

i think she just doesn't know better right now and thinks it's all ok, build her self esteem as well, i know of many girls who have very very low self esteem and would drop their panties without you even saying anything tongue
bottom line, talk to her and make her understand right from wrong



EDIT: IF that doesn't work, leave this page open on her computer, change your forum name to your real name, she'd go on her computer and see this and wanna change herself tongue, she'll know you know, won't wanna even look you in the eye, and would be carefull for a few months and by then she'll be smart enough to know right from wrong

-come to think of it, that's a better idea than talking with her tongue wink

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im glad that my little sister isnt that stupid. and that the web technology wasnt so available when my older, dumber sister was younger.

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what u need to do now is post here the picture of ur 16 yo sister so we can discuss what needs to be done.

<parrot> there is also the odd  possibility that tryme is an idiot
<KT> possibility?
<genesis> tryme is a bit of an idiot
<Torqez> bit?

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jesus take the internet away from her thats ridiculous.......

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WHAT THE HELL ?

DW, my friend, my man...you are no infidel ! Kill the girl ! She dishonours your family and family name ! In the name of allah, she must die. You cannot seriously allow this to go on. Havent she been given food and shelter ?

Kill her ! Its the obvious solution ! No more worries, no more disrespect, no more problems.

As a sidenote : You should also belt all the perverts out there trying to get with your sister without the intention of marriage.

Go for it !

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this is a hard one cuz i found out one of my "ex s" (more of a toy) use to do things like that. were the same age but back when she was like 15 she was send shit to a 26 half way across the states. she had all these romantic stories that she would tell me about the shit he sold her and she bought it all up even when he cheated she said it was just part of this life style and image he had to keep up and that he really loved her and only wanted her. now im not saying anything bad in your case but her dad ran out on her before she was born and didnt have a step till she was 5 but still its a step.

im 22 and have a 2 year girl and i know i would kill her if i ever found out about do things like this or sex in general but i can understand i lost mine at 12 (parents werent really involved in my live)  kids have sex. we did it they well do it.

i know i ramble and rant (bad day) but the point is be involved. its not the internet's fault or the tv its what YOU let them do on. and KNOW their friends. long stories short i knew a chick that was great when she was with me and some of her friends and her mom but when these two friends of her came around. man it was night and day. they could make her just a loud bitch and get her to start fights with her mom and ... theres just to much.

so know her friends cuz they do have that much power, or even better be her best friend, and not just to get though this but for really

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I think she can talk to whoever she wants about sex. But you should bring up the risks of giving out her phone number, pictures, and especially your home address. Don't try to be over protective, but keep things reasonable.

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er good luck with that, you might take her computer access and explain how she endangered herself and your whole family but that's up to your family to know her better.  You only have two years before she can tell you all where to go and do whatever.

but I'd recommend noting who she sent pictures and things to and giving that to MSN and calling the police on it, take care of the creeps she's already talked to

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> Ramiel wrote:

> WHAT THE HELL ?

DW, my friend, my man...you are no infidel ! Kill the girl ! She dishonours your family and family name ! In the name of allah, she must die. You cannot seriously allow this to go on. Havent she been given food and shelter ?

Kill her ! Its the obvious solution ! No more worries, no more disrespect, no more problems.

As a sidenote : You should also belt all the perverts out there trying to get with your sister without the intention of marriage.

Go for it !


Belt them? what kinda of man are you, torture I tell you, torture.
and when it comes to his sister she should be given to a man that could take care of her and watch over her as a guard.


But seriously, It is not your job to raise your sister, your parents should tale to each other find out which consequences to give to her for what she has done and maybe contact the older guys that are using her (consider that as one of the consequences), and sit down and have a talk to your sister as an adult. Because that is what she would like to be treated as, thou she  might be immature like other 16 year old. But it could help her to reflect and also act as an adult due to the fact that when you are given the "status" as an adult person she might act more mature. IF that does not work with consequences and the talk you just have to take it from there. Also use a program to see what she is doing on her computer. (if your not doing that already)

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yea, cause he really wants to see his sister masturbating for some stranger tongue

my experience is that it's easier to talk to a brother/sister than to a parent, so maybe you should talk to her
although i suppose that really depends on what kind of relationship you have with her (no you sicko's not that kind of relationship X() (although maybe, if he's from southern USA)

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so temme DW, you never look at minors that way smile?  do you even know for sure that hottie is not a minor tongue?
or you the goodie kind of guy smile? i always think it s funny men go beserk when it comes to -their- mother, sister, gf, whilst they would not think twice to go out and have fun themselves

i can really understand you concern, but the girl is 16 and already doing the stuff, it s not like she ll stop just becoz someone tells her to or becoz other think it's unheard of smile

i dont have any good to go advice either, every person/situation can be different smile
sometime they indeed have to crash and burn a few times, and grow up/older , mebbe you could find out wehter she lacks attention form ppl in your home, as someone said before , or find out wether she s bored, or wether she hates the boys at school/in your town for some reason (or already had them) ((kidding))
does your dad allow her to go out / date?

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of course im a good guy, i have the girl of my dreams and we waited 6months before having sex

my sister is a still a virgin by all accounts and its not that I want her to stay that way, its just the way shes going about it.

giving her number and our address out to strangers is bang out of order as i also have a 12 year old sister she is putting in danger not only serself

the world is full of sick people and she doesnt know if the guy on the end of the convo is 60, 70 or even 80 years old

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well there are plenty of sicko 20 year olds smile ( congratz on having the girl of your dreams big_smile )

indeed your other sister might engage in that stuff even in a more zealous manner, make sure she isnt already smile does she what her sis does? on the address you could indeed make a point about endangering the whole of the family smile
does yr sis have real life friends smile? mebbe she just feels the ppl on net listen more carefully to what she has to say, or that they are more trustworthy ecoz they cant tell stuff to ppl in her immediate environment.

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the fact that she is talking about all that sex stuff, is perhaps quite normal when she's 16, it might just be her sexual exhaust
the fact that she is giving pics, telephone number, adress, ... is definitely dangerous

i reckon the best way is to make her come up with her own solution: i think ur dad (NOT u) needs to talk to her and ask things like:
where do u see this going?
what do u rele want from all these actions?
do u realise ur putting urself in a dangerous and extremely vulnerable position here?
etc.

try to make her come up with her own solutions: if she sais she wants to lose internet access, then u can try to arrange that, but just doing that without her wanting it will have an extremely bad effect

no but seriously, DW, dont get involved in this, unless she comes to u for help.

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I can't beleive your dad's still letting her use the internet. Block her on the router and tell her that you've done it and why.

She needs to be told and she needs to know the consequences. I'm sure a quick google search would bring up enough to scare the living daylights out of her.

I sympathise, and I wish there were easier ways of sorting this out, or something we could all do.

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