In order to raise a child to adulthood one must make sacrifices, we all know that. For example; one must leave the bachelor lifestyle behind, leave the Bar for the weekends only and be a firm, sober, presence in the child's life, otherwise you could accidentally be responsible for the child turning into an alcoholic.

Self sacrifice, the cornerstone of any forward thinking society.

But what of self interest, is self interest also necessary? It it right to "guide" your children towards the future you want for them, to buy little Annie pencils and paints so she can be the artist you want her to be when all she wants to do is play with the dollies and kitchen set granny bought her for Christmas.

Of course sometimes the answer is clear, a paedophile guiding the future of his or her child, "grooming" them to accept that it is perfectly normal for adults to have sex with children, is qute clearly wrong, robbing the child of a choice it should not have to make until maturity, if ever.
A quick google with lead you to the depressing truth as to the future of these victims; unfortunately most abused boys and girls become abusers themselves, the self interest of their parents/step parents/uncle lumpy lap irreversibly altering their minds forever.

So is self interest ever acceptable in parenting?
Is there a line, between the two, between self interest and self sacrifice, or does the line lie in one of the two?
Is some forms of self interest acceptable, to raise your child to worship the great whirling ball of death on the opposite side of the line to raising your child to be a rapist, paedophile, or merely a slut?
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No fighting, no name calling, no off topic ranting. If you cannot be courteous and respectful I will have the thread closed.
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The Fokker has spoken, discuss!