"...52. Domestic partnerships lack the social meaning associated with marriage, and marriage is widely regarded as the definitive expression of love and commitment in the United States.
...54. The availabilty of domestic partnership does not provide gays and lesbians with a status equivalent to marriage because the c ultural meaning of marriage and its associated benefits are intentionally withheld from same-sex couples in domestic partnerships.
...68. Proposition 8 results in frequent reminders for gays and lesbians in committed long-term relationships that their relationships are not as highly valued as opposite-sex relationships.
...77. Religious beliefs that gay and lesbian relationships are sinful or inferior to heterosexual relationships harm gays and lesbians.
http://documents.nytimes.com/us-district-court-decision-perry-v-schwarzenegger
Each of these "findings of fact" used to decree that gay marriage must be lawful, refers to how people other than a gay couple, feel about homosexual marriage. The judge (who just happens to be gay) decreed that gay couples are entitled to the respect and cultural legitimacy accorded to heterosexual marriage.
In other words, it's ENTIRELY a matter of what other people think about you.
BTW I look forward to a federal lawsuit by Justin Bieber to compel the same "cultural legitimacy and respect" to "Baby Baby Baby Whoa" as Mendehlsson's Wedding March. I mean since the federal district courts are ladling that out, why not grab some?
PPS You know, no matter who you are, no matter what you do, there's somebody somewhere preaching you're gonna burn as an enemy of God. I guess I should sue them.
The core joke of Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy is that of course no civilization would develop personal computers with instant remote database recovery, and then waste this technology to find good drinks.
Steve Jobs has ruined this joke.