1 Topic by CanadianTire (edited by CanadianTire 10-Mar-2008 02:36:09)

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I'm gay. I have know it for several years now, but it's only in the past year that I've begun to accept and try to live with it. Seeing as IC was (and remains) a very important part of my life, I've decided to post my first coming out here, and also because none of you know who I really am smile

When I stopped playing IC a few months back, I blamed it on huge amount of homework, and the stress of University, but thats not entirely true because the biggest cause of my stress was trying to keep my sexual orientation quiet, and fearing everyday that someone would find out. I apologize to the fam members I had to leave for not being entirely honest with them at the time (I think it was SD with Assys as fam leader).

Well, there you have it. My confession and apology to my old fam. I'm really sorry (again) I deleted on you guys, but I just couldn't put up with real life, and be an effective IC player as well.

This is not to say that I've completely come out, and will be rejoining IC again ASAP. Only 2 of my close friends know about this secret, and I have no intention of telling my parents or any other of my family members. I just hope everyone understand what I'm going through, and that I'll be fully accepted back into IC forums now that I've been truthful, and back into the game when I have time to unwind and concentrate.

Also, if anyone wants to bash me for being gay, or coming out on an online forum where no one knows who I am, I really don't care, and most likely won't respond.

P.S. - When were the old forums attacked? I feel like I missed so much while I was off hiding in RL.
P.S.S. - Not overly fond of the new forums, but El Bekko's skin in great, and makes it feel homey smile

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Congrats on starting to accept who you are.
I however fail to see how you can continue to hide this from your parents. I'm sure they'd accept it, seeing as you are their kid. Either way, good luck, and don't let narrow minded bashers get to you.

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stand up for your rights!

The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones that do.
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good for you, CT. in a world of right-wing politicians and other close-minded bigots, it's good that people still dare to be who they really are.

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Good for you CanadianTire smile.

Give it another decade, and i'm sure i'll end up being gay too.

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This is totally ironic reading this because I just saw a sign that read "Homosexuals are gay!" and it was a protest sign....really redundent dont you think lol

More power to ya CanadianTire smile  Your parents will accept you for who you are man, they are the only people that will always be there for you...you should really re-consider telling them.

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Ah! Now I see why the Canadian thread was soo dead. I better see you more often in there now. smile

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Congratulations on coming out big_smile
Like everyone else I also think you should tell your parents btw.
It may be tough, but they'll accept you no matter what. It worked for me when I told mine I'm bisexual, and it worked for my ex-bf, so you can do it too I'm sure tongue

I'll never know if it was worth the pain, but I still loved it more than anything in the world - it was my life.

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you've got support here if you need it smile

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1. Confusion
2. Comparison (start understanding this is what I am)
3. Tolerance (first coming out phase, more tolerance of self as homosexual)
4. Acceptance (socialization, seek similar others and try to understand history and community)
5. Pride (past shame takes reversal, overidentification with community)
6. Synthesis (comfortable with who you are, don't need to confirm yourself with anyone else)

We'll call these a list of phases some homosexuals go through with regards to their sexuality.

Of course, when you tell your parents, they may go through a somewhat similar set of phases with regards to your sexuality.  But eventually, they will come around smile

So if you tell them...and they're not enthusiastic...don't worry too much about it smile It might just take them some time...the same way it's taking you some time. You can hardly expect them to accept it overnight if it's taken you years probably to come this far (though if they do...great) smile


That being said, not everyone makes it to synthesis, so congratulations on taking another rather large step. Weeee big_smile

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> Your parents will accept you for who you are man, they are the only people that will always be there for you...

I'm sorry but i disagree.

Please CanadianTire, understand that this 'news' will freak some people out. Simply because they aren't used to it, or aren't expecting it. Also don't take it the wrong way if some people seem to be 'against' you. I'm sure your family will love you reguardless, but don't take it TOO personally if someone doesn't take it all in straight away and accept you with open arms...

That being said, the IC community (Excluding a few) is here for you wink. As it is for almost every other IC member. That's why they call it a community wink.

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If you havnt bought a girlfriend home yet your parents are probably half expecting you to be gay smile

You only live once mate, dont bottle things up. I'm sure once they know everything will be just fine wink

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heya candian smile well done smile

and like most ppl i would say tell you parents wink

I was using a metaphor that means God is watching us. You've heard this, there's a toilet on the roof.

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Glad you accepted it CT. And indeed, I too think you should come out to the rest of your social environment, it worked wonders for all my gay friends wink
Even for the one with the medieval-minded father wink

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while everyones coming out i better too, me and deci are getting married !

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congrats CT, it was a big step just posting and if u ever need anyone to talk to, just pm me big_smile all the best smile

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Thanks for all the support guys! It's such a relief to know that so many people here are ok with this smile. As for telling my parents, the plan in to first get an apartment, and then one day leave them a note on their coffee table, and moving out the same day. A bit unrealistic, but both my parents are very anti-gay.

"stand up for your rights!"
-Thanks Llama, but I'm not ready to wear rainbow- coloured capes just yet wink

"Give it another decade, and i'm sure i'll end up being gay too."
-Lol sKoE... If the women are treating you that bad, just start clubbing more. Remember, even guys can wear revealing clothes now tongue

"If you havnt bought a girlfriend home yet your parents are probably half expecting you to be gay"
-Lol, don't think I haven't thought about this. My worst fear is that they will find out on their own and confront me about it.

Again guys, thanks for the support! It's good to know I have somewhere to escape to where I can be myself.

BTW beaners, Deci is so mine. he just doesn't know it yet! tongue:P

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Well done on coming out, I hope you will use this as a first step to truely being who you are inside.

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"-Lol, don't think I haven't thought about this. My worst fear is that they will find out on their own and confront me about it."

just 'accidently' leave sum naked girl pics lying around tongue

I was using a metaphor that means God is watching us. You've heard this, there's a toilet on the roof.

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Good for you for being so courageous! big_smile Though my advice is that telling your parents or not is subjective; if you have faith they'll be supportive and accepting eventually, go for it. If it might really ruin relations between you, then maybe telling them isn't the best idea.

Good luck, whatever you choose! x

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im comming out too XD

im a lesbian!

my parent allready know this XD

*dances around naked

The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones that do.
If Not For The Gutter... My Mind Would Be Homeless......yikes
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OMG!!! Llama, this whole time I thought you had a penis! (hehe)

"just 'accidently' leave sum naked girl pics lying around tongue"
-I have thought of this, but my mom is very religious, and would probably send me to a minister for counciling if she saw me with any of those.

Even if I did decide to come out to my parents, I would still have trouble of thinking about what would beth best way to tell them. I thought about in the car, because once the car ride is over, I can run and hide for a while, but then if one of them was driving, they would likely total the car. One way a friend suggested was to come home stoned out of my mind, and when thy ask me if I'm on drugs say 'Yes. And I'm gay too. Deal with it'.

But I think I'm still a long way from that stage yet.

"In a world of global deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act." George Orwell

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I suggest latex clothing and a sign.

Congrats on coming out tho, much better than hiding it.

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Not much pisses me of more, well nazis do, then people who are against gay rights.

Sometimes it's a F**k'd up world we live in. I just hope that you are able to be strong, and rise above the once who have something against gay humans. Because thats we all are - humans, and it should'nt be a issue what gender of humans you fall in love with. Hell we are all bi anyway, we just don't know it smile

Good luck CanadianTire, sad to hear about your parants and there issue with gays sad

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well you are wrong muncher we are not all bi, it has to do with all the wickedness and depravity in the world, homosexuality is a sin ,because GOD say it is, it is an abomination unto the LORD, i do not hate CT but i cannot and will accept his life style, for it is wrong and only brings death to the soul and emotions, it goes against everything that is morale, did you  guys and girls know that 60 % of homosexuals only to be in their late 40's early 50's, their death rate is triple national standards.

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